Surprise

I have begun typing this post several times now but have found myself erasing it shortly after sentence 4. It’s not that I’m uninspired; it’s that the words that are coming out seem selfish. Far be it from me to send more negative energy into the world than we’re already breathing in. I feel guilty for housing this venomous attitude and it’s my hope that tomorrow when I roll out of this bed and my feet hit the soft carpet, I’ll truly be able to start fresh.

This past few weeks have drained me; emotionally, professionally, physically. (Can someone be drained professionally?) I’ve spent more time reacting to my circumstances than rejoicing in His love for me and I’m reminded of this by the aching in my bones. My pastor discussed today the element of surprise in following Christ. The moments that define us, not only as Christians but as beings, are the moments where we must react when God surprises us. He talked about Mary and the surprise she was given when the Angel Gabriel told her of her pregnancy. How amazing that such a gift was bestowed upon such a humble, regular woman. Without hesitation or fear she accepted His will and asserted her faith in Him.

I’ve been considering ending my journey as a foster parent. While this year of my life has been beautifully life-altering, it has also hardened me in a way I can’t willingly accept. Between case managers who are overworked, judges who seem cold and hard, biological parents who consistently come up short , and my constantly being villainized because I’m stamped with the title “foster parent”, I want to run as far away from this system as I can..the paperwork and the double standards and the random strangers walking into every room in my house to inspect it every month. I want to be able to keep my Advil in my cabinet instead of under my cupboard in a locked box and I want to be able to drink a glass of Arbor Mist without having to climb on top of a chair and stand on the tips of my toes to pull it out of the locked box on the top shelf of my pantry. I want my life to be my own. I pray on this with every breath but the answer I receive never seems to be “It’s ok. You can stop.” His answer always seems to be “Here. I will make you stronger.”    

But alas, this morning during silent prayer at church I again prayed that prayer. “When God surprises you, how will you react?” While I thought about the pastor’s question and how it applied to my life, his next phrase shot out of his mouth like an arrow headed straight towards me. “While you may be resisting it, God may be telling you to take a foster child into your home.” Message received.   

I have this vision of the way I want my life to be: In this vision, my sweet foster baby is mine forever. I want to put pigtails in her silky, strawberry blond hair on the first day of Kindergarten and kiss her on the tip of her nose before she runs into her brand-new classroom. I want her to love Jesus and I want to be the vehicle she needs to know Him. I want to build forts with her in the living room out of blankets on rainy days and I want to teach her how to be servant-minded and give even when those around her are taught to receive. I envision coming home from work each night to a man who still smiles at me when I walk through the door; Someone who is eager to learn and grow himself that way that I am. I want to live in a modest home in a small town with a wrap-around porch so I can read the paper outside and grow old with my husband. I want to always be willing to give it another shot, even when my body is weak and my spirit is weaker. I want to show my children that even when those around me live life with their fists up, when God surprises me, I will accept His will and follow Him faithfully. Even when my plan doesn’t match his. I can’t wait to see what He has in store for me.

This entry doesn’t really have an ending. I would tell my students to revise it. That’s the good thing about being a teacher. I can do what I want. With love, Amy